I've learned to appreciate solitude and quiet.I've learned to slow down, to be kinder to myself, and to allow myself to fully experience whatever it is I am going through, unapologetically. And in the process, we learn more about who we are and what we're made of.

The kids adjusted - and continue to do so. Watching my kids struggle to adjust and make sense of their new lives was probably harder than the daunting task of dealing with my own emotions. To trust my gut and follow it full speed ahead. I've learned to listen to my heart - unabashedly. You can try and try and try, and some things just can't be fixed. Better yet.even if you have been through it, you will never, ever know what one particular couple is going through or the depths they went to in order to try and save what they once had - no matter how their lives look on the outside. To be honest, unless you've been there, shut your trapper. and they don't realize the sting it leaves for those of us whose marriages ended. People flippantly drop words like throwing in the towel, calling it quits, giving up, etc. On a daily basis I see the quotes about how people back in the day didn't get divorced because they lived in a time when something was broken, they took the time to fix it. Anyone who's been divorced knows exactly what I mean.įacebook is riddled with stories about 25 ways to divorce-proof your marriage, advice from some page written by a divorced guy on what he did wrong that you can do right to save your marriage, how putting in the effort will make it all okay.

One huge thing I've seen is that people who haven't been divorced really have no business acting like they know how it feels, how a marriage gets to that point, or saying divorce is the easy way out. I've learned a hell of a lot, and I still have so much more to learn. I never, ever in a million years imagined it would happen. A staunch believer in marriage, I looked back as mine was ending. I got a new place and decided things needed to change. In the hardest decision of my life, I moved out.

She was brave quotes